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Support Graceful Confidence provides.

These are the resources Graceful Confidence offers directly, or connects participants with through our own work. This page will grow as our programs do. If you're looking for outside crisis or community services, visit our Safety & Privacy page instead.

Peer Support

A small group of survivors, led by survivors. Peer Support is our first developing project, with our first group planned for mid-January 2027, and free to participants.

Learn about Peer Support →

Understanding Intimate Partner Violence

An educational resource on recognizing patterns of intimate partner violence and understanding what recovery and rebuilding can look like.

Read What Is IPV? →

More resources are on the way

As Graceful Confidence's six-pillar Program grows through the partnerships we're building, this page will be updated with additional resources across Secure Housing, Teaching Life Skills, Restoring Confidence, Overcoming Trauma, Changing Patterns, and Gaining Independence. See the full Program →

Books that have helped us understand trauma, abuse, and healing. Read at your own pace.

Understanding Abuse & Controlling Behavior

Cover of Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft
Why Does He Do That?

Why Does He Do That?

Lundy Bancroft

A former abuser-counselor's look inside the mindset and thinking patterns of angry and controlling men.

Cover of Should I Stay or Should I Go? by Lundy Bancroft and JAC Patrissi
Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Lundy Bancroft & JAC Patrissi

A guide to honestly evaluating whether an abusive or unhealthy relationship can realistically change.

Trauma & Healing

Cover of The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
The Body Keeps the Score

The Body Keeps the Score

Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.

How trauma reshapes the body and brain, and the paths available for healing.

Cover of Healing the Child Within by Charles L. Whitfield
Healing the Child Within

Healing the Child Within

Charles L. Whitfield, M.D.

On recognizing and healing the wounds carried from a difficult or dysfunctional childhood.

Cover of A Gift to Myself by Charles L. Whitfield
A Gift to Myself

A Gift to Myself

Charles L. Whitfield, M.D.

A guided workbook companion for putting Healing the Child Within into practice.

If you live with someone who monitors you, a library copy or e-book may be safer than a physical book at home.

Some of these books describe trauma in detail. Take breaks and reach out for support if you need it.

Give a Book

Help us build a lending library for women in our programs. A gift to our general fund helps us purchase and share books like these.

Give a Book